I Was Sick — And This Is What I Learned

I was sick this Easter weekend — a weekend that most people have looked forward to with such intensity and vigor particularly in the wake of the fresh wave of hope that the Covid-19 vaccinations have offered. I didn’t have the Coronavirus, thankfully, but I was still raging a war with my own body. It is a fight that is more of a battle of wills. It is a fight that everyone has experienced, though very little discussion has taken place. After all, who likes to talk about being sick? We just say I was sick and then that’s it, as we are all anxious to resume the daily crunch of normal life again.

Each and every time that I was sick, I have been reminded of certain things. To be reminded of the these things that we must all never forget and yet people do seem to forget this when they are healthy and well. It is only when they are sick that people forget that being healthy is something that we must always treasure, must always work for, and must always maintain. Being healthy is not a given, as anything can happen. Therefore, remember these lessons that I learned while I was sick.

A person in a hospital bed.

Don’t put off until tomorrow

When I am healthy, I do take life for granted. I often say things like I can do it tomorrow or I’m so tired so I want to sleep all day. I am constantly saying that I want to do this or that, but it never happens today. I end up putting it off until tomorrow. But the problem is: tomorrow never gets here. If I keep putting things off until tomorrow, and tomorrow never gets here, then when will it get done?

We go about our lives, assuming that there will be a tomorrow, but the truth of the matter is, no tomorrow is ever guaranteed. Which is why we should always do as much as we can today, and make sure that tomorrow doesn’t become never.

This also brings me to my next point:

Everything can change in an instant

Tomorrow is never guaranteed because everything can change in an instant. In this moment, you might be sitting at your desk, working on a business proposal. Or, you might be sitting on the couch, talking to your mom or dad on Skype. And then the next moment, you might be stuck in your car, which was flipped upside down, waiting for the paramedics to reach you. Or, you may receive a phone call from the doctor that changes everything.

We never know what will happen. That is why it is important that we treasure each and every moment. It is when I am at my most vulnerable — when I am sick — that I am aware of this fact. Everything can change. I can be healthy at one moment, and then wake up sick.

There are more important things than your job or money

Your job and money will come and go. Literally. After all, the average person in the US will have a total of 12 jobs. Money will also get deposited into your bank account on a set day every week, every two weeks, or every month, only to have the money diminish to pay bills. My point is, the constant in life is not your job or money. Those things can change. Even when you are sick, your job is still there. You still have to work. Even if you have the fortune to be able to call out, or take a sick leave, you are still given a limited number of days to recuperate otherwise you risk getting terminated. As for money, money will also continue to dwindle out of your account, thanks for the miracle of automatic payments.

But the one thing that will continue to be there for you while you are sick is your family. Your family is more important than your job or money. Therefore, keep the things that matter close. Remember that your life does not revolve around working, but about spending time with your family.

What is the most important lesson you learned when you were sick?

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Hi! I'm Helen and I am a 32 year old biracial millennial mom raising two multiracial children. I am a writer, English consultant, and social media manager. I am a self-proclaimed chocoholic.

12 thoughts on “I Was Sick — And This Is What I Learned

  1. “What is the most important lesson you learned when you were sick?” That my bride oft 31+ years ago meant it when she promised to love me “in sickness and in health.” It’s easy when a spouse is healthy. Have a couple strokes and you will find out if your spouse really meant it! 😉
    Just teasin’, of course. I do not wish for anyone to have to go through the recovery process, if that is even possible, as some strokes are so severe, the spouse must become a “care-giver” for the rest of the victim’s life.
    I have been blessed with amazing recovery, but mostly because of my wife.
    love and prayers,
    c.a.

  2. I’m glad you’re feeling better Helen 💖 these are beautiful lessons you’ve learnt from a not-so-pleasant experience. It’s amazing that there’s a silver lining!
    I on the other hand love being sick 😅 it sucks while it is happening, but I get to actually focus on me during such times. And I get pampered by my husband. It’s almost like a forceful ‘slowdown and appreciate Shelly’ moment that happens 🙈😂

    1. There is always a silver lining to even the worst situations! <3 And yes definitely one of the perks to getting sick is getting extra care & love <3

  3. This is such an insightful post, Helen. I ignored my health for decades, apart from taking medication to help me get through whatever health issue I experienced. So, now I have started the journey of addressing the issues, but it is a long list!

    It is so true that life can change in an instant and that family needs to be the centre of your existence. My wife is very good at this. I have not been so good, but I have made huge strides in this area which includes working from home for the last 16 months and finally addressing many outstanding issues regarding the home.

    I was talking to my daughter the other day regarding the matter of job security and money. I said to her that I have not had this in over 19 years. During this time, I was on fixed term contracts leading organisations and then ended up working for myself for half that time. I explained how I don’t have sleepless nights any more – even when a contract falls through or never eventuates, it is my issue and how I deal with it is up to me. I find constructive ways to deal with such eventualties – such as reminding myself that I do have control over my life. This contrasts quite markedly from when I was working for someone else during the first half of my career and I was stressed out all the time – jumping to someone else’s tune.

  4. Hope you are well now!
    In 10th grade when I got extremely sick that I couldn’t attend school for 2 weeks, I felt so special. Our relatives would come to meet me and even send gifts haha. And my friends didn’t leave a day without coming to my home and taking care of me after school. My class teacher would also call me time to time and ask how I’m feeling 🙂

    1. That is indeed one of the benefits to being sick 😉 People coming by to ask how you are when they ordinarily wouldn’t do that when you are healthy.

  5. I hope you are better now!! I was sick a couple of weeks ago (thankfully for a few day) and I didn’t give up on blogging. I didn’t rest and I just focused on blog but then realised there are more important things then blogging and our health is one of them. Great post

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