5 Best Reasons Why You Should Talk To Yourself

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A month ago, I asked this question on Twitter:


I was overwhelmed by the responses that I received. The vast majority of people commented that they do, in fact, talk to themselves. Of course, we must keep in mind that most of the people who commented are in the creative arts, as writers, bloggers, artists, or content creators. Perhaps talking to oneself is a trait that is specific to creative people. Or, perhaps not.

I’ve always talked to myself. In fact, one of my earliest memories are of me talking to myself as I walk home from school as a seven or eight year old child. It isn’t really talking to myself, per say, but more like thinking out loud to myself. Strange as it may seem, I do my best thinking when I can think out loud. I feel inhibited somewhat when I think silently, inside my head. Is that just me?

Today, I’d like to give you my five best reasons why I — and you — should talk out loud for the entire world to hear.

1–It Cures Boredom

Whether you are home alone or surrounded by a crowd of people at the mall, there are times when you feel that sudden rush of boredom. Sometimes it lingers for hours. Sometimes it flickers for only a second. No matter how long it lasts, it definitely makes an impact.

I think it is a natural human tendency to want — no, to need — to stop boredom at all costs. I mean, being bored is no fun. Being lonely is also no fun. It’s so dreary and isolating.

So, when there’s no one around or if you feel down in the dumps, it can help to just talk. Whether you are talking out loud about what you did that day, asking yourself a question, or telling yourself that you did a great job, these words can help to cure that feeling of boredom and loneliness that keep creeping back.

After all, the best person who can offer the most comfort is yourself. Who knows you best but you. So, trust yourself, talk to yourself, and beat that boredom away.

2–It Improves Your Self-Esteem

Having high self-esteem comes with a host of rewards, such as greater self-confidence and the ability to succeed in life. I am a firm believer that the one thing that we can all do to improve our self-esteem is by using positive affirmations. Give yourself compliments. Tell yourself good job. Don’t beat yourself down for something that you failed at. Always look for the good, or the silver lining, in that one job that you did. Trust me, there is always some good to be found in even the most negative of situations.

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3–It Helps You Think Clearer

I don’t know about you, but I talk to myself as a way to reflect. I talk to myself to help myself think better. I find that I do my best thinking when I can just blurt out the problem and possible solutions to myself.

By talking out loud, I am better able to focus. I can focus on that one issue. I stop being distracted by other thoughts. By focusing, I can solve the problem quicker. By focusing, I can see the problem or the issue for what it really, truly is. Our minds can be pretty amazing, but they can trick us into believing something that isn’t there. By focusing, I can cut out the noise and just think.

4–It Makes You Smarter

I firmly believe that talking to yourself can make you smarter. Talking to yourself can help you focus better, improve your perception, and improve your memory.

There is so much information out there spinning around outside our bodies. Sometimes it helps us focus better by zeroing in on one stimulus. Maybe that’s why people tend to complete things better if they focus on one activity instead of attempting to multitask.

Besides helping us to focus, it can help us to improve our memories. According to a study conducted, people were able to remember words repeated out loud better than those who remained silent. This suggests that saying a word out loud can help us to visualize the word and the object that it represents. After all, most people are visual learners and need images to help us retain information.

5–It Is Concealable

And finally, this probably only applies to this year. This is the year that we all have to wear masks. One awesome thing about wearing masks in public is that you can talk to yourself and no one is the wiser. Think about it. How awesome is it that you can go out in public and recite your entire shopping list or tell yourself good job without the whole world thinking you’re some weirdo? It’s pretty cool, right?

So, next time you are feeling bored, or out in public, don’t be ashamed. Feel free to express your thoughts even when there is no one around. Feel free to talk to yourself. You are doing yourself, your self-esteem, and even the people around you a favor. It’s an amazing thing when people can feel free to talk to themselves.

So, do you talk to yourself?

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Hi! I'm Helen and I am a 32 year old biracial millennial mom raising two multiracial children. I am a writer, English consultant, and social media manager. I am a self-proclaimed chocoholic.

32 thoughts on “5 Best Reasons Why You Should Talk To Yourself

  1. my daughter is a excellent writer who someday will write books and i am so very much proud of her in every ways

  2. I talk to myself all the time and most people say I’m weird but I like it like that. It cures boredom and does most of the things you listed .

  3. My psychiatrist said it is all right to talk to myself. In fact, he said it is all right to ask myself questions and answer them. But then he said, “When you say ‘What did you say?’ call me!” ;-D

  4. Seriously, Dr. Daniel Amen said on a TED Talk, “Don’t believe every stupid thought that comes into your head. Talk to yourself and ask, ‘Do I have reasons to believe what I am thinking?’ ” 😉

  5. Hello, yes, I talk to myself quite frequently. My mother often talks about the memory of when I was a little girl and I first acquired my imaginary friend. My mother was terrified, and she took me to a therapist at Hope Haven, a facility that specialize in child therapy in Jacksonville. I often find it fascinating now hearing this story. I don’t really remember when I first started talking to my favorite person in the world, my imaginary friend. I still have her to this day. I used to hide her away and not tell the world about her, as I knew people would think I was crazy. After all schizophrenia and bipolar disorders run in our family. I had to be crazy if I enjoyed talking to myself, right? Well, thank you so much for touching on this for me. Thank you for making me feel normal, whatever that means. Great blog post. Keep creating! CSA

    1. Hi, Clennell.
      Prayed for you a while before sending this; C.S.Lewis says the devil likes two extreme errors: first is to convince us he does not exist; second is to convince us he is everywhere and causes everything.

      Talking to oneself is healthy and fine, even if one imagines another with whom you are speaking. However, be aware there are spirits in the world. See 2 Peter 2. Be certain you are not really speaking to ‘another’ and be especially careful with a history of psychoses in a family. “Demonization” does not simply mean “demon-possessed.” It can involve ‘familiarity’ with evil spirits who disguise as ‘angels of light.’ (2 Corinthians 11:12-15) Consider reading “Emotionally Healthy Spirituality” by Peter Scazzero.

  6. OMG , the thing with the mask and people not being able to see that you’re talking to yourself has not occurred to me and I love it. So many times, I just wanna talk but don’t when I’m not alone and this is fab. I mostly talk to myself in the car and always hope that people think I’m singing. Although I also kinda don’t care what others think, the talking to myself part seems a bit weird. I admit, I also have conversations with myself, but it’s not like I see other people, I imagine them and they answer in my head. And oh the amount of Grammy speeches I have already given… 😀 But it has always helped me to imagine a situation and practice a speech or just something I want to say, etc. I love it and think it’s just something very creative and I don’t know. It’s lovely.

    xx Hailey – http://www.haileyjaderyan.com // http://www.instagram.com/haileyjaderyan

  7. From my pre-teen years, I talked to myself. I even sought out enclosed places like closets, beneath bow front desks or stairways just to have animated conversations with the imaginary characters in my head. Apart from keeping me company, I found that it boosted my confidence in speaking out loud and strengthened my consciousness in fine-tuning the sound of my voice. This is one pivotal factor in my public speaking journey. I love it!!

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