7 Reasons Why I Hate Valentine’s Day

I hate Valentine’s Day. Even though I love getting gifts and being on the receiving end of compliments, I still absolutely abhor Valentine’s Day. These are the 7 reasons why I hate Valentine’s Day.

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7 Reasons Why I Hate Valentine’s Day

It promotes fat shaming

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Valentine’s Day is probably the only holiday that condones receiving chocolate and candy as an expression of love from that special someone. Women often receive a box of chocolate on Valentine’s Day, and then the next day, the media is back to fat shaming women for eating “too” much. The media is back at it by constantly bombarding women with advertisements and commercials on losing weight and eating less. This creates senseless guilt and shame, causing women to ultimately hate their bodies. So, I say that we give candy to women without the constant and never ending pressure to look a certain way.

It creates unnecessary waste products

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It is no secret that on Valentine’s Day people go out and purchase stuff to give their loved ones. They purchase cards, boxes of candy, and flowers. The cards will be read and then set aside, ultimately ending up at the bottom of a deep drawer. The candy will be eaten and the wrappers and boxes will be thrown away. The flowers will be admired for a few days, but then they will start to wilt and decay, and then ultimately thrown into the trash. So, when all is said and done, the trash can is a little bit more fuller and the wallets are a little more emptier.

It is a money making holiday

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It is no secret that Valentine’s Day is pretty expensive. In fact, the average person spends about $142 for their loved one. That is a lot of money to spend on a single holiday, for a single person. I could think of a lot of other things that I could do with $142, like paying off debt or investing it in a retirement account, both of which would bring more happiness in the long run.

It turns love into a sellable product

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By essentially commercializing love, the market is turning it into a sellable product. They are saying that one of the most powerful emotions in the world can be essentially bought. They are suggesting that women are likely to fall head over heels in love with a man who turns up at her doorstep with a huge box of candy, a gigantic stuffed animal, and a beautiful bouquet of roses. Essentially, they are saying that a person’s love can be bought with simple, cheap, materialistic things. Is this really what we want to teach our children?

It teaches the wrong things about love

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I blame Valentine’s Day for being responsible for creating a false pretense about love. When I google Valentine’s Day, I am bombarded with pictures of beautiful flowers, candy, and women sporting huge smiles on their faces. I see pictures of Cupid lurking in the background, having just hit someone with the love bug. This shows that Valentine’s Day is nothing more or less but the temporary alcohol fueled shot of love. It does not celebrate the true nature of love. It does not show the very real life of what has to happen when two people are in a long-term, loving relationship. It does not show the compromise and sacrifice of love, but instead turns it into a holiday for superficial and meaningless love.

It sets unrealistic expectations for men and women

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Did you know that about 6 million couples are going to get engaged on Valentine’s Day? This sets unrealistic expectations for men and women. When these expectations don’t come to friction, then it brings about disappointment and bitterness. It makes a day that is supposed to be filled with happiness and love to one that is unnecessarily stressful and tedious. It’s hard to enjoy this day when you expect certain things to happen, or for the day to be absolutely perfect.

It is a day of exclusion

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And finally, Valentine’s Day is a day of exclusion. It is probably the only holiday, whose purpose is to exclude people who don’t meet society’s standards of love. For people who may not be in a relationship on Valentine’s Day, this day ends up being the loneliest and most depressing day of the year. This day is responsible for making people feel bad for not being in a relationship. This day suggests that the relationship between couples is the most important, failing to show the greater importance of self-love before all else. By overestimating relationship love, this holiday fails to capture the true meaning of love.

Conclusion

Valentine’s Day is nothing more but a day to binge on candy while experiencing a momentary high from love. When love becomes something that is commercialized for the profit of others, it essentially becomes meaningless. Instead, we should celebrate and show love everyday. I don’t mean that we should buy a box of chocolate and a bouquet of flowers every day of the year. Instead, we should show love in other ways though affirmations, acts of service, and physical touch. We should always do this every day of the year and not just save it for a holiday that only comes one time a year.

Do you love or hate Valentine’s Day?

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Hi! I'm Helen and I am a 31 year old hapa mom raising two multiracial children. I am a writer, English consultant, and social media manager. I am a self-proclaimed chocoholic.

13 thoughts on “7 Reasons Why I Hate Valentine’s Day

  1. Hate is a strong word….. I don’t “hate” valentines day but I don’t like valentines day either 🙄 I agree that it is a Hallmark holiday. I told my husband not to buy me anything for Valentines day and I am not buying him anything either. If we are going to do something special, a chocolate bar is good enough for me! ♥ No heart shaped overpriced boxes unless we can find a great deal 😅 Otherwise, I am not interested in participating in this Hallmark holiday.

    Love should be practiced 365 days of the year rather than one day of the year, and jewelry/miscellaneous gifts are materialistic items that we probably don’t need. Sure, it would be nice to have, but these gifts are not needs. Tbh I think years of marriage or being with a long-term partner for several years speaks volumes compared to being showered with a bunch of heart-shaped gifts. When I was single and living at home, my mom would give me valentines chocolates, a stuffed animal, and a card each year. Honestly, that meant the world to me ♥

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      1. It helps not to have these unrealistic expectations going into a relationship, and putting Valentine’s Day on a pedestal does more harm than good. I also find it very annoying when bloggers push sponsored blog posts littered with advertisements. It’s especially bad this time of year because Valentine’s Day is approaching….. Like I get it, they need to make money somehow, but one does not need to buy these things in order to be happy.

        I’ve been with my husband for 8 years and married for almost 5 years. We keep Valentine’s Day very low-key and simple. It helps having a relationship that is low maintenance and fairly inexpensive.

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  2. I agree that it is a “Hallmark Holiday” designed to sell cards and flowers. But I do not see that as a particularly evil intention. I fully agree with you and Hilary that love should not be “reserved” for a special day of the year, and not only for couples. It is sad that many suffer depression on this day, but that seems to be another whole issue of self-acceptance and recognizing one’s place or stage in life.
    As a Christ-follower, I am enjoined to love every day, and even love my enemies!! THAT’s a tough one. It is exceedingly hard to do! (https://capost2k.wordpress.com/2020/04/14/how-are-you-praying-for-your-enemies/ and https://capost2k.wordpress.com/2015/02/22/marked-by-love-part-4-to-love-an-enemy/)
    As a husband of 31+ years, Anita and I enjoy Valentines Day. Pre-pandemic we often would have guests that were single or divorced or widowed with us to lunch or dinner. We love to give Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages as gifts, available in various forms for singles. children, teens, even one for workplace relationships. https://www.amazon.com/s?k=5+languages+of+appreciation
    Great for Valentines Day giveaways as long as you keep the relationships clear as to whom you give the books! 😲
    love to you and your family this weekend ONLY! 😂 c.a.

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  3. You see ..that’s why I stopped celebrating this holiday. I always day if you love someone you love them regardless. No holiday is gonna make you love someone even more. Love is something you build together. Many relationships fail because they celebrate it only on this day and not make it a daily habit to do kind things for eachother and not only that you show love and appreciation in different ways rather than buying things. You got me with this post! Many people should read this post.

    🌹❣🍷

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