I hate Valentine’s Day. Even though I love getting gifts and being on the receiving end of compliments, I still absolutely abhor Valentine’s Day. These are the 7 reasons why I hate Valentine’s Day.
It promotes fat shaming
Valentine’s Day is probably the only holiday that condones receiving chocolate and candy as an expression of love from that special someone. Women often receive a box of chocolate on Valentine’s Day, and then the next day, the media is back to fat shaming women for eating “too” much. The media is back at it by constantly bombarding women with advertisements and commercials on losing weight and eating less. This creates senseless guilt and shame, causing women to ultimately hate their bodies. So, I say that we give candy to women without the constant and never ending pressure to look a certain way.
It creates unnecessary waste products
It is no secret that on Valentine’s Day people go out and purchase stuff to give their loved ones. They purchase cards, boxes of candy, and flowers. The cards will be read and then set aside, ultimately ending up at the bottom of a deep drawer. The candy will be eaten and the wrappers and boxes will be thrown away. The flowers will be admired for a few days, but then they will start to wilt and decay, and then ultimately thrown into the trash. So, when all is said and done, the trash can is a little bit more fuller and the wallets are a little more emptier.
It is a money making holiday
It is no secret that Valentine’s Day is pretty expensive. In fact, the average person spends about $142 for their loved one. That is a lot of money to spend on a single holiday, for a single person. I could think of a lot of other things that I could do with $142, like paying off debt or investing it in a retirement account, both of which would bring more happiness in the long run.
It turns love into a sellable product
By essentially commercializing love, the market is turning it into a sellable product. They are saying that one of the most powerful emotions in the world can be essentially bought. They are suggesting that women are likely to fall head over heels in love with a man who turns up at her doorstep with a huge box of candy, a gigantic stuffed animal, and a beautiful bouquet of roses. Essentially, they are saying that a person’s love can be bought with simple, cheap, materialistic things. Is this really what we want to teach our children?
It teaches the wrong things about love
I blame Valentine’s Day for being responsible for creating a false pretense about love. When I google Valentine’s Day, I am bombarded with pictures of beautiful flowers, candy, and women sporting huge smiles on their faces. I see pictures of Cupid lurking in the background, having just hit someone with the love bug. This shows that Valentine’s Day is nothing more or less but the temporary alcohol fueled shot of love. It does not celebrate the true nature of love. It does not show the very real life of what has to happen when two people are in a long-term, loving relationship. It does not show the compromise and sacrifice of love, but instead turns it into a holiday for superficial and meaningless love.
It sets unrealistic expectations for men and women
Did you know that about 6 million couples are going to get engaged on Valentine’s Day? This sets unrealistic expectations for men and women. When these expectations don’t come to friction, then it brings about disappointment and bitterness. It makes a day that is supposed to be filled with happiness and love to one that is unnecessarily stressful and tedious. It’s hard to enjoy this day when you expect certain things to happen, or for the day to be absolutely perfect.
It is a day of exclusion
And finally, Valentine’s Day is a day of exclusion. It is probably the only holiday, whose purpose is to exclude people who don’t meet society’s standards of love. For people who may not be in a relationship on Valentine’s Day, this day ends up being the loneliest and most depressing day of the year. This day is responsible for making people feel bad for not being in a relationship. This day suggests that the relationship between couples is the most important, failing to show the greater importance of self-love before all else. By overestimating relationship love, this holiday fails to capture the true meaning of love.
Valentine’s Day is nothing more but a day to binge on candy while experiencing a momentary high from love. When love becomes something that is commercialized for the profit of others, it essentially becomes meaningless. Instead, we should celebrate and show love everyday. I don’t mean that we should buy a box of chocolate and a bouquet of flowers every day of the year. Instead, we should show love in other ways though affirmations, acts of service, and physical touch. We should always do this every day of the year and not just save it for a holiday that only comes one time a year.