Imagine this: you wake up early, earlier than you usually do. You brush your teeth and get dressed, even humming a tune. Everything is fine and dandy until you go to sit at your desk. You blink. Your computer screen is black. There is a single sentence: COMPUTER IS MALFUNCTIONED. PLEASE ENTER THE DISK. You blink again, and in that moment, your entire world comes crashing down.
You glance at your clock. You have an hour to fix this. Heart pounding hard in your chest, you do the only thing that is left: a manual reboot. You manually turn the computer off, wait some seconds, and then press and hold for ten seconds. The screen blinks and then turns on, turning from black to blue. You select ‘yes, I want to reset the computer.’ You then settle in, hoping it gets done in time.
It’s not done in time.
Ever have one of those days?
I started my Monday morning with a computer that just wouldn’t cooperate. As a result, I couldn’t work. As a result, I was panicked and scared. As a result, I felt bad for something that really wasn’t my fault.
So, what do you do when you are having a bad day? How can you make yourself feel better?
This is what I did. This is what you should do make your bad days better:
1–Take a Deep Breath
First, before doing anything else, just stop and take a deep breath. Inhale. Exhale. And then, do it again. Keep doing it until your heart stops racing. Keep doing it until you feel calm enough without going red in the face. Keep doing it until you feel better.
2–Don’t Blame Yourself
It’s important to remember that you should never blame yourself. Things happen and sometimes there’s nothing you could have done to prevent it. Perhaps it’s the universe’s way of keeping us grounded and not getting too cocky. In either case, don’t blame yourself. Don’t sink to that level of negativity. Just move on.
Then, go do something else. Go watch a video by a favorite YouTuber, or watch something on Netflix. Go read a book. Go jump on Twitter and scroll through the tweets. Go on Instagram and swipe through the stories. Let yourself forget what happened. For a moment at least, let yourself be immersed in another person’s reality.
4–Talk to People
This might be a little hard to do especially since we are in the midst of a pandemic, but go talk to people. It doesn’t even have to be face-to-face. Text someone. Video chat with a friend or family member. Talk to someone on social media. It doesn’t matter what or with whom. Just talk to someone and get your mind off of your troubles.
And finally, don’t be so hard on yourself. Treat yourself. Go get yourself a latte from Starbucks. Or, buy yourself an extra donut or candy. Go buy yourself an ice cream or a milkshake. Go do something for you. Just because something bad happened, it doesn’t mean that you have to punish yourself.
Yesterday, when I had my bad day, I did these things. I watched this video on YouTube and had a laugh. I went on Canva.com and created some pins for Pinterest. I updated my Facebook page. I treated myself to French Fries from McDonald’s. I did all of these things because you know I deserved it.
We’re all trying. Bad things happen, but they are never permanent. Good things will always come again. We will meet the good things when they come. Until then, we must hold on and endure.
And you, my dear reader, what do you do when you are having a horrible, absolutely no good, very bad day?